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Yes great chinuch.

 

Fathers like these hurt their children forever and are largely responsible for their child's eventual spiritual downfall. It is then that they blame the Yeshiva, Rebbe etc. Yiddishkeit has to be real or else it is no better then any cult or belief system.

 

There's no rhyme or reason! I've seen tmimusdik fathers with not temimusdik kids......I don;t care what anyone says, how your kids end up is 80% mazel and 20% hard work. Many times bums have good kids and the reverse- good people have bums for kids!

 

It's called reverse sociology. The grass is always greener (for those outside of brklyn,its those stringy things that come from the ground)on the other side.

 

that is not the reason that there are so much buys at risk.

 

When someone crosses the street he has 2 options,
(1) dont look if cars are coming (2) look Both ways
if you pick option #1 you will most likely get hit by a car but you may not you may get lucky or pick option #2 you will most likely get a cross safe but you might still get hit by a car.
point is u still have to do yours but it is in gods hand

 

Translation?

 

its better for these type of fathers to leave their kids at home. At least at home they wont see this type of behavior. Besides,how much do you think this father's is really worth? it's only routine lip sservice.

 

you come to synagogue to pray to hashem.
some think it's a social gathering.
they have no spiritual feelings for a holy place.

as is written in avoidas yisroal
that even the prayers of those not
shmoozing are held
and not answered
because of those who are shmoozing.

 

Translation: "Stop playing around and say a sincere prayer"

This is a common prod that a parent will give to a young child in shul. It means to say, you are a big boy now (as evident by the fact that you are "in shul" with the adults). But for it to come from a parent who sets a lousy example, its of little use, and if anything, it only riccochets back in the hypocrate's face in the kids teen years.

And believe it or not, I have seen this EXCACT scene with my own eyes. The quote was a bit different (that father said, "I've been watching you the whole time, and you did not pray one sincere word". My kids (at the time, were 7,9 and 11) looked at me with pie-eyes, becuase they picked up on the double-standard in a NY minute. Its a safe bet, the kid did too. Only the father is too wrapped up in himself to notice the damage he is doing to his kid. Until the kid gets into real trouble.. then he wants to know why the "system" failed.