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If we stop banning things, then what would all those "holy" knockers who sit on their tucheses all day long pretending to learn in kollel really do with their time?

 

Is this what really goes on the heimishe oilam?! What exactly is this man imagining will happen! Is he married! Does he care that she is married! I would like to know more about what normal married people need to protect themselves from and what to worry about on your spouse!!!

 

Such and similar ads have been on Craigslist for a long time. This is nothing new. I've seen them five years ago already.

 

I would like to know more details about what goes on! Does anyone personally know anyone who was busy doing these things while they were married!

 

this problem exists in monsey ,eer hakodesh of lakewood and monroe too.does not phase me any more.

 

If you really care, why don't you "set him up" and catch him?

 

The complete lack of spelling and grammar skills lends an air of authenticity to the ad.

 

what does that mean? Do the spouses know about it? Has anyone caught their spouses doing such things? What should one look out for?

 

Yes I am someone with this problem and working on it. CHIIIIIIIIIILLLLLLLLLL!!!!

 

Welcome to the real world frum or not frum there is crazy stuff going on here in flatbush and I am sorry to say I am part of it and pray that my wife is not!!

 

First of all it should be a lesson for the women in tzniyus. I just dosnt sound like a good idea to be to attractive in the streets, its dangerous.

Second, we really should "set him up". I would want to be there and snap some pics. This could be dangerous now that everyone knows where to find this person. We should anonimously warn her to be carefull. A diffrent shmuck just might find her.

 

You act like none of you cheat on your spouses. liarsss

 

THESE ADS NEVER WORK ANYWAY!
Came across such an ad long time ago. My freind and I made an experiment. We posred simerlar ads to see who would respond. The girls never rspond to the ads. We tried to pose as a girls poster once, and WOW, 18 serious responces! We where a married lady, looking for a married guy. THIS IS NUTS! Anyway, let's ban LIPA, that should help the situation!

 

I cannot begin to express the outrage of my feelings to see people casually admitting betraying their spouses! Do you thing you deserve your spouses! Do you not believe in Hashem & that he sees & hears EVERYTHING! You can fool your spouse but you cant fool Hashem! Do you go to shul to daven each day! To whom do you think you are praying to! To the Almighty who knows exactly what your doing! Aren't you embarassed! What an utter fool & lowlife you are acting like! I simply need to know how you justify your behavior in your mind & heart! Can you just for one minute thing of how your spouse would feel if they know! Do you care! If your marriage is not satifying you why dont you work on it! Doesnt that make sense!!! If this is such a powerful blinding yetzer horah then there should be major public awareness of this so that the poor unsuspecting spouses can do what is necessary & people should not get away with it so easily!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To the Lakewood Shopper - you have a major ability to create more awareness of this sad pathetic problem!

 

Sorry I meant the Lakewood Coffe Room!

 

um!!!!! did you forget where the question mark is!!!
how do you know this is true!!!!
!!!
!!!

 

to all of you out there dont worry it all comes out eventually no one gets away with it forever

 

TO THE ONE WHOE WROTE THIS IN
WHAT IS THIS TZADDIK HADOR DOING READING THE PERSONALS IN CRAIGSLIST
I PERSONALLY AM NOT A CRUSADER OR A TZADDIK HADOR AND NEVER EVEN KNEW THAT THERE WAS A PERSONAL COLUMN ON CRAIGSLIST
MAYBE EVERYONE SHOULD DO SOME TESHUVA AND STOP THIS BASELSS LOSHON HORA ON KLAL YISROEL AND TRY LOOKING FOR SOME GOOD THAT PEOPLE DO

 

DISGUSTING

 

just for you guys to know
after reading the positive and negetive responses here
i go on graigs list too
and see these adds this is not the first one and wont be the least one sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt
i have responded to some and must tell you that at times it works
there are gay stairght and bi guys on there looking for some substance in life
truthfully i dont blame them for doing what they do, i have been around the block a few time kids are looking for attention and someone to tell them i love you even for the wrong reasons and superficially that word "i love you means so much for a teenager that doesnt hear it from their parents, when a parent says it it must come from the heart when a stranger says it it doesnt, that is what we are up against dont rely on anyone else you your spouse and hashem, as they say "a fish shtink fun kop"
what are they leaders showing for the youth of our times, "geivah sinah and kina"
what do you expect from the youngsters,
this is all they hear about
rebbes, roshei yeshivos, mechanchim, todays worls is full of metirialistic instincs.... movies s..x drugs etc.
people are so busy with their own grouth and statis in the community that they forget whey they should be here, i.e. for the kinderlach
just this morning i went to a well knowen bakery/coffee shop in b.p. from the corner of my eye i see a 17-19 year old bochur with peyos etc. checking out the guys that walked in front and back
as i have mentioned i am not suprised

my suggestion,
forget the community, forget the melamdim, forget yourself
take care of your children the forces of the yetzer horah are much stonger then kedushah that is a fact and your not going to change it
talk to your kids (if needed talk about other people as an example) talk to them about all of the above, dont kid your self your son and daughter get excited all the time and sometimes fall into their needs, dont rely on anyone at all you do your job
if a boy 15-16... does aveiros the end will be your responsibilities not the yeshivah not the rebbe not the community leaders but yours
you will have a lump in your throught and a chill up your spine but damm it talk to your kids
one most important thing to tell them (i know a lot of you dont agree, but i dont care) "i love you for you being my child, no matter what you do and or where you go you are my child for life, remember that every day of your life, i am always here for you to discuss any subject in the world you can always come to me with your deepest secrets in your heart, and i will keep as a secret" etc. etc. they will have s..xual fantisies and go with it with themselfs and or with others dont let that get in the way of your love for your child. when i was 15 i did the same but didnt have the internet and the one thing i wanted so much to hear from my father and mother is "yingeleh i love because you are my son forever and ever" i could of told them something like shut up no you dont, but in a day or two it would sink in dont let 24/48 hours go by without telling that to you child, it is hard, send them a text message or e-mail but damm it send it and say it. you will save your childs life from four simple words ---i love you forever---
i can go on and on but you get the point
love your kids and let them know that and feel that unconditionally, that is what you have children for

the computer the internet is the greatest tragity that happened to am yisroel you are not getting rid of it any time soon be mechezek your children in the derech hatorah vehamitzvos do the best you can and your children will love you for it and remember it. hatzlacha merubah ve'kol tuv

 

Hey, can someone tell me how to get on Craig's List??? I want to meet this guy! Perhaps he is MY Bashert!!!

 

Hey Anon, May 4, 2:08 PM. There is a great article on that topic on aish hatorah

www.aish.com

called sit down and talk. it's under the family tab from a few months back. really good.
check it out.

 

What should i tell you?!! i am shocked!!! i would not believe this, and still don't!

Secondly what does this have to do with banning lipa? 2 wrongs....

 

to anon 2:08
you darshin like the "autistin", you know, the new nevi'im of the dor..............

 

I would like to hear more confessions, what else is there besides craiglist that people from the heimishe oilam are fooling around with? Is there anyone out there with a conscience that wants to help the poor inoccent spouses!

 

מות יומת הנואף.
פרשת קךושים

 

to anon 5-05 2:37

thank you for the smicha

jfyi i was writing from my heart
as i said i was there done that

chill dont be so offended

anon 5-04 2:08

 

some of you people here sound like you just came off the boat
you cant amagine whats going on out there in the world with frum people

in bars whore houses social clubs and video shops

they are a dime a dozen

guys just dont hurt anyone
have fun enjoy

brooklyner, see you there

 

to anon 05-05 9:07 am

i can show you the ropes call me

 

to ropes; im listening

 

this is such stupidity. the rabonim don't have to "Assur" something that is obviously ossur!

 

whats this lakewood coffe room? a blog? where?
there is lots going on....
dont judge ur friend until u walk in his shoes.

 

The Craigs List ads have been around for years. What shocks me is that men are seking men. Isn't that wrong? Married M/F seeking married M/F. Isn't that immoral and adultry? There are chasidishe men sitting at internet cafe's on 8th AVE in BKLYN this just sad. Yes, that is true I have followed them in to see what they are doing in China Town.These are things that should be looked at in the privacy of your home or with a spouse.

 

hey just if you can tell me 8th ave and what
there are times the need arises and i must go on the interenet to look for things

thank anyone please tell me

boro parker